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"Seek the wisdom that will untie your knot. Seek the path that demands your whole being." - Rumi
So many times in life we look for others to make us happy and we put our happiness in their hands. We may depend on others to do things that we believe will bring us happiness and when they do not we blame them or become angry. This is a recipe for disaster.
In my journey with Nonviolent Communication (NVC) I have come to understand that I am responsible for meeting my needs and that other people are not.
I have learned to not attach myself to one person having to meet my need(s). The same goes for groups of people (organizations, clubs, fellowships, etc.). When I have expectations of others I put myself in a place where I can be disappointed. When I believe it is others' responsibility to meet my needs I give my power away because they have the power to affect my happiness or sadness. I am no longer in control of my happiness. I am less empowered. I also put a heavy burden on others. I play a game where no one wins.
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