Monday, April 22, 2019

Building Resilience in Our Children and Ourselves


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Here is an article on resilience that was recently published in the Mountain Democrat by the El Dorado County Child Abuse Prevention Council.

Building resilience is vital to our own personal growth and is essential for children. It is easier to run away from problems or not deal with pain. But building resilience and increasing our capacity to navigate stressful situations and trials allows us to grow and be better equipped to handle difficult life situations in the future. Helping our children develop resilience is the best gift we can give them.

Check out the article here.

Sunday, April 21, 2019

Tiger Woods Incredible Comeback to Win the 2019 Masters



Tiger Woods comeback to win the 2019 Masters may be the best comeback ever. After having various surgeries on his back and at one point not being able to walk, it is amazing to see him win yet another time. At one point, he did not believe he would be able to play golf again. His celebration brings a tear to the eye as you get a glimpse of the emotion.

Woods, who overcame injuries and personal trials (many self-inflicted) demonstrates determination and persistence that can inspire anyone to not give up and continue to pursue their dreams.

Below you can watch some highlights on the road to his Master's win. Enjoy! For more inspirational videos you can scroll down the right column of this blog to find videos.



Sunday, November 18, 2018

Just Published the book Essentials for Cultivating Passionate Volunteers and Leaders!


I am excited to share that I just published the book Essentials for Cultivating Passionate Volunteers and Leaders. It is available at www.barnesandnoble.com and www.booksamillion.com and www.amazon.com.

I wrote the book because it is very important to value volunteers and staff and to know how to effectively honor them and the needs of the organization. Creating a culture where individuals can thrive and discover their strengths and purpose is essential. When volunteers and staff find their niche and focus on their strengths the organization is more effective and more good can be done in the world.

I have had a lot of volunteers that I have worked with over the past 20 years and many I am still in touch with today. What they tell me most impacted them from working with me is that their voice was heard and that they were guided to discovering their role to play in the organization.

My book will help:

*Inspire and motivate volunteers and staff
*Listen to others effectively and offer quality feedback
*Reduce turnover and cultivate passion in the workplace
*Improve productivity
*Develop a culture of mentorship and learning
*Individuals and volunteers choose the right organization for them

Here are some reviews:

"Mr. Zacapa provides straight forward, practical ideas for engaging and inspiring employees and volunteers to perform at optimum levels for the good of any organization. His short and very well written book inspired and validated my own principles applied during my own, lengthy career as a CEO of a nationally respected affordable housing developer/operator. Eddie Zacapa understands the importance of finding passion in those we lead and offers excellent tips on how to apply empathy and understanding for the promotion of work excellence."

Rob Pearson, CEO, Santa Barbara Housing Authority


"Eddie powerfully lifts up the concepts of 'love thy neighbor' in this book. He illustrates how volunteering time and skills to our communities teaches teamwork, communication, conflict resolution, critical thinking, project planning and other important life skills. Eddie especially captures how human beings can bring out the best in each other through volunteerism. He also reminds us to preserve and treasure our interconnectedness as global citizens."

Ami Pascual Spear, Founding Director, South of Market Foundation, Community Economic Developer practitioner 

Books ships quicker from www.barnesandnoble.com and www.booksamillion.com. 

Beyond Praise - Expressing Gratitude

There seems to be a widespread assumption that praise is always a good thing. It is not uncommon for teachers to be told to praise a child every day. Some are even evaluated on how close they come to this standard. Many books on parenting encourage praise and don't mention any negative effects of using it. 

Yet there is now research that shows that using praise can be unhealthy. What can be unhealthy about praising kids or others? 

Dependency on Praise for Approval
Well for starters children can become dependent on praise and not be able to self-motivate themselves. Alfie Kohn in his book Punished by Rewards shares a story of a teacher who would say, "Good job! You really helped me out today!" to two boys who she concluded were insecure. Yet their desire to please her grew and they were no closer to achieving the confidence and security she was hoping to build. Their mood depended on whether she approved or did not and they felt better about themselves when she did.

Kohn also writes that children may end up not being as creative and relying more on adults to make decisions for them as a result as well.

Kohn states, "Praising children for the way they behave, meanwhile, gives them no reason to continue acting responsibly when no one is likely to say nice things to them after they do so, and it gives them neither the skills nor the inclination to make their own decisions about what constitutes responsible behavior."

It is true that not all children react the same way to praise. This may have something to do with their background and personality. For instance research shows that girls do not respond favorably to praise and are actually less interested in doing the work that they are praised for doing after being praised. This may have something to do with how often women are complimented for being nice or sweet that they have come to realize that the praise is just an attempt to control them or get them to do something.

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Wednesday, November 14, 2018

Taking Responsibility for Meeting Our Needs

Photo Courtesy Rumi Facebook Page.

"Seek the wisdom that will untie your knot. Seek the path that demands your whole being." - Rumi

So many times in life we look for others to make us happy and we put our happiness in their hands. We may depend on others to do things that we believe will bring us happiness and when they do not we blame them or become angry. This is a recipe for disaster.

In my journey with Nonviolent Communication (NVC) I have come to understand that I am responsible for meeting my needs and that other people are not.

Detachment
I have learned to not attach myself to one person having to meet my need(s). The same goes for groups of people (organizations, clubs, fellowships, etc.). When I have expectations of others I put myself in a place where I can be disappointed. When I believe it is others' responsibility to meet my needs I give my power away because they have the power to affect my happiness or sadness. I am no longer in control of my happiness. I am less empowered. I also put a heavy burden on others. I play a game where no one wins.

Continue reading here.

Friday, September 01, 2017

Feature Photo


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Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Vision Comes To Life at White Rock

Markos Egure of Wes Kos Images paints final touches on mural for youth room.

The Youth Enrichment Room is a project to create a safe space for youth to connect with one another at White Rock Village, a property of Mercy Housing. White Rock Village is a property of Mercy Housing in El Dorado Hills that provides affordable housing to create stable and healthy communities by developing, financing and operating affordable, program-enriched housing for families, seniors and people with special needs who lack the economic resources to access quality, safe housing opportunities.

Some of the programs offered in the room include youth leadership, homework club, KidZone, and arts and crafts. The Mercy Foundation contributed a grant of $15,000 to make this happen. The last part of the project was to do a mural that would reflect the White Rock Village community, include ideas from the youth and the messaging to inspire the youth who use the room.  

Read the full story here that was published in the Village Life. You can also watch a video of how this project came together with youth involvement at this link.