Friday, February 11, 2011
The Past Does Not Need To Define Who You Are
Many of us have done things in our past that we are ashamed of or regret. Sometimes we allow these actions to define who we are. We judge ourselves and in doing so stunt our growth as individuals. The things we have done loom over our lives. We are haunted by what we have done. Like shadows always following us they remind us of what we have done and how bad we are. Unfortunately many people fall into this trap.
The way out is to allow ourselves to feel a sadness for what we have done. To reflect on how what we have done has affected others and ourselves. What needs of ours were not met by what we did? As we do this reflection there must be no self-judgment. Once we have connected with this we can then work on how we can make things right and avoid the same mistakes. This is empowering and leads to change. After we do this we can let go of resentment towards ourselves and move on. For a step by step process on how to do this click here.
What matters most is that we have made the changes necessary to become healthier. When we do this we become someone who is different from the person who did and who was. We are something new - changed people. That is what matters.
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